High School Relationships
February 5, 2013By Olivia Garcia of South Houston High School
A vast amount of students are involved with at least one person in their high school experience. Whether the couple stays together for the rest of their lives is a compatibility test and is a very low percentage.
Having a high school sweetheart can bring so much joy into each other’s lives and the lives surrounding them. You know you can always count on them when you’re feeling blue or when you need someone to talk to. But, they aren’t just a shoulder to cry on; they are your happiness, your best friend, your path to finding yourself, the spark to get your dreams going, the one who feels right to hold and be held by, and the one who makes you feel as if there is no one else in the world right for you.
A relationship is a very tender period in a person’s life to experience both love and anger. So many special memories are secretly promised to be made and experienced with one another. The moment you feel like everything is going perfect, make that wonderful feeling last. Enjoy it.
Bob Marley said, “He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold on to him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you can break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy who is perfect for you.”
The moment you feel that this person is not the right one for you it is extremely difficult to try and stay away, to try and stay happy. No matter how hard you fight for him/her, no matter how much you want him/her to put up a fight for you, and to love you as much as you love them, it will be hard. I know this because I’ve been through it; I am going through it. But, what he and I used to think was forever, came up a bit short. We were the best of friends; we shared so many memories, so many laughs, smiles, tears, and secrets. The days following I wanted it all back. And when I look at him now, my heart still beats faster. Sure, there may be emptiness in my heart, but two years of much loving will never be erased. It will be a never forgotten memory.
Breakups are hard, no questions asked. The easiest way to feel happy (and this is a promise) is to, ladies, doll yourselves up. Wear the beautiful outfits, wear your hair in the cutest ways, and don’t forget the makeup. Do not, though, look like a clown. Look amazing, look irresistible…to him. Make it a game. Never let him see you sad. It will ONLY make him feel all the more powerful. Let him know and see, no matter how much you hurt, you are happy. It will kill him and make him feel like he made the biggest mistake to ever ignore you.
With every relationship there is a learning experience. You become prepared for your future relationships and your adult relationships. You get a better idea of who you want to be in your life and your expectations will hopefully rise for whomever you end up with when you decide to marry one day. Who knows who will be right around the corner or, even right in front of your very eyes? Maybe it was him? He’ll find you.