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Dear Mary-Anne: Volume 4
April 16, 2013James F Byrnes Freshman Academy
I have a friend who is a boy who has major mood swings all the time. I try to ignore it, but what would you do if you were in my place?
Dear Jane Doe,
If I were in your place, I’d sit down and talk to this person about the issue. Tell him very calmly that it bothers you and that maybe he should start being more subtle about things. Also, you should learn how to handle these mood swings in a way that doesn’t cause more problems. Depending on what he’s upset about, you should discuss with him calmly about what happened and try to understand why he is upset. Be careful not to take on his problems. If he can’t change his ways, you might want to befriend someone that is more stable.
Me and my parents cannot get along at all. It is getting to the point of complete frustration. I can hardly tolerate them. What can I do?
-Typical Teenage Girl
Dear Typical Teenage Girl,
You’re not alone. Lots of teenagers have this very same problem. There isn’t much you can do, but try to compromise with them instead of arguing. Don’t be afraid to talk to them about stuff that bothers you. Better communication will solve misunderstandings and getting frustrated. Instead of getting frustrated, just try to remain calm and believe it or not, your parents can be right sometimes.
I want to like a new friend I have, but she’s annoying the apples out of me. I share most of the same ideas with her, but we don’t click well, plus she’s really condescending and she hates my music. Music is a biggy too! Help please!
Dear Jasey Rae,
That’s really a choice you’re going to have to make. If you like her and can put up with those minor flaws, then stay friends with her and you’ll eventually learn to deal. Everybody has their quirks, some are bigger than others, but you’ll learn to look past that and see the better side of them. Since she hates the music you like, either don’t talk about that or find some music that you share. After a while, she might even learn to like it, just don’t try to force her to like it.
How do you know if a guy likes you?
-Stressed in Duncan
Dear Stressed in Duncan,
There are many ways to tell if a guy likes you. One way is that if he is constantly joking around and making fun of you, but still being flirty. Another way is if he is sweet and always goes out of his way to do stuff for you and make you smile. The latter is less common, though. Lastly, another way is if a guy is really shy and doesn’t talk much when you’re around, but makes small gestures like brushing up against you or sitting near you. Guys are much easier to figure out than they seem. Some anonymous guys at BFA said that when they like a girl they text her more and talk to her on the phone a lot.
How should I motivate my team to play with some passion and effort?
Dear No Name,
When playing on a team, it can sometimes be hard to get everybody pumped up and ready to play. You can help by just staying positive and doing your best. During practice and right before games speak encouraging words to the other players. Don’t ever put your teammates down even when they do something wrong because when players don’t get along well, it causes problems on and off the court. If you mess up, don’t carry it with you the rest of the game: just shake it off and keep going. Motivate the team by keeping yourself motivated.
My friend and I really don’t like this other girl because she is super annoying, she always acts like she’s right and thinks she’s “holier than thou.” How should I deal with her because I want to go off on her sometimes?
Dear Frazzled Francis,
If you don’t like her, try not to associate with her. Don’t be mean or ignore her, but just try to put space between you two. If she still doesn’t take the hint, then tell her kindly that it’s better if you guys just don’t talk.