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Dear Mary-Anne: Volume 2
February 13, 2013James F Byrnes Freshman Academy
I really like this guy and I’m not sure how to get his attention. Should I be flashy and showy or be myself? I like him so much that sometimes I can’t talk right when I’m around him. How do I stop it and cure it? I mean I want to be more confident when I talk to him. Is lip-gloss a good choice?
-A Falling Freshman
Dear A Falling Freshman,
When you like a guy, the most important thing is to be yourself. If he doesn’t like who you really are, then he is not even worth your time. Do not be flashy or showy, because that’s not who you are, and modesty is one the best traits for young women. When you’re around him, think about him just like he’s another friend and do not think too much about what you are saying. You can also think about subjects to bring up when you talk to him, and then ideas will flow naturally. Also, confidence is the key. You need to know that you’re beautiful inside and out, and no matter what he thinks of you, there is somebody out there just for you. (Oh, by the way, lip-gloss is always a good choice ;)
Is being different okay? I don’t look like everyone else, I don’t talk like them, I don’t even act like them.
Dear Holly Wood,
Being different is extraordinary. It means that you stand out from the crowd and that you’re better than everyone else because you aren’t afraid to be yourself. No matter what anyone says, don’t ever change for other people. Acting like other people doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re cool; it means that you don’t know how to be your own person so you copy other people. Just keep living your life and be happy with who you are. Stand out and shine!
What should I do if the people who eat lunch with me spend most of the time dissing me? And I have nowhere else to sit.
Dear John Doe,
You could try to confront them about it first. Tell them that it bothers you a lot and try to explain to them how you feel about it. If it doesn’t work, you could try to find another group to sit with that will respect you more.
How do you tell a guy you don’t like him while still being polite? I try to ignore him, but one of my friends said that from a guy’s perspective, it looks like I’m just playing hard to get.
Dear Jane Doe,
If a guy likes you and you don’t like him, the best thing to do is just be honest. Don’t try to sugar-coat it and just say what you feel. He will probably be hurt at first, but he will get over you eventually. It is better to let him know now than to give him more time to let his feelings grow for you.